4 Things To Consider If You Don’t Have A Healthy Relationship

I’ve had numerous conversations on this topic. A healthy relationship certainly brings much joy when you are around the right person. I don’t usually include my marriage life into my writing, but I think I’d give a bit of perspective into what makes a relationship a healthy and happy one —because the past two years have been very eye-opening in the latter subject.

Love. We can all agree that two people who love each other can never have long-hatred arguments over meaningless causes at all times. The book of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 from the Bible reminds us how “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.  Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love never ends…” There is no wrong when love is the shield of the relationship. You would do anything to keep the relationship healthy as long as you love your partner.

Sharing. I’ve learned that the more you share with your partner in a relationship the closer you get to one another. There is no such thing of being private when you have a good rapport with someone, especially marriage. The good Lord blesses my husband and me as we get home at the same time from work most of the times. We tend to speak about our days around dinner time. Not only that, we won’t engage in any doing without the other one’s reasoning. We pretty much plan everything together –though we’re not in always in agreement.

Communication. Whether it’s a friendship or a love relationship, it won’t work if there’s no communication between the parties involved. I have three girlfriends living in three different countries. We use unconventional communicative channels —like WhatsApp— to communicate with each other. Most of the time, we know what each other is going through, and we are able to keep in touch in good and bad times. Trust me, if we weren’t linking through the power of communication, our friendship would have discontinued a long time ago because we’ve been friends since high school. That’s more than 10 years ago though.

Forgiveness. To keep a relationship growing, you have to be willing to forgive the one who does wrong. “No matter how many times the teeth bite the tongue, they still stay together in one mouth”. Trust me, whether it’s your life partner or a friend, there will always be misunderstanding and tensions, but use the spirit of forgiveness continuously. Peter asked how many times we should forgive: Jesus answered seventy-seven times.

This list is not merely enough. However, I believe as I learn more into what makes a relationship a healthy one, I sure will continue to share with you. But do feel free to add on to the list as well. Thus far, those around me I hold a relationship or friendship with has been nothing but supportive to me.

Let’s continue to love, share, communicate and forgive so the relationships you form can flourish —for better years are yet to come.